Monthly Archives: February 2015

SHORT STORY: “Not Paid To Like You”

The prompt for this story was the title. It conjured a couple of vignettes that I then stitched into this story. One or two points aren’t realistic, including the part with the main prompt! Specifically, in that a good sex … Continue reading

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Thought Experiment: Giving Rocqui A Gender

I like thought experiments. I think they can be useful for expressing or exploring ideas in science (famously, a thought experiment about bouncing balls on trains is used to explain the theory of relativity, for example), philosophy, and ethics. They … Continue reading

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Editing is a political act: changes to reply to Observer transphobe free speech letter

So, last week’s letter defending the right of transphobes and whorephobes to impose themselves on audiences at will received a response. It turned out that the transphobes’ letter had been edited, and the same is true of the response. I … Continue reading

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No one who can be silenced gets to be no-platformed

Here’s something that puzzles me about the “No platform = Silencing” thing. In order for a person to be subject to a “no platform” policy, their views must already be well-known. It is a basic tenet that “No-one has a … Continue reading

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The non-binary of D/s

Last week, Jemima @ Sometimes It’s Just a Cigar wrote about the non-binary-ness of D/s: the false binaries of how D/s is presented. I had a few thoughts about ways in which that could be approached. She, of course, brought … Continue reading

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Elust 67: with Sub Power, and various types of wetness

Photo courtesy of Rebels Notes Welcome to Elust #67 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions … Continue reading

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Free Speech and the fascistic TERF

CONTENT NOTE: transphobic, whorephobic violence Sticking my head above the parapet here for a quick comment on the “Free Speech for Whorephobes” letter published in the Guardian today. The letter has been signed by a bunch of academics, columnists and … Continue reading

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Early indications from “36 Questions” online dating experiment

For the past couple of weeks, I have been following a simple formula for my first contact messages on Plenty of Fish, which is a freebie (i.e. ad-funded) dating website. I used the “36 questions to fall in love” concept … Continue reading

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The Importance of Love to D/s Strength

This started as an Edit To Add on my original “D/s Emotional Vulnerability” post, but quickly got long and I decided it needed to be a separate post. Xiao Yingtai has taken the effort to work her comments on that … Continue reading

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The curse of seeing the other side

Content Note: brief discussion of abusive situations and “victim” mentality. I am a wee bit short on what to write. (You get that yesterday’s post should have have been done on Monday, right? so this is the post that is … Continue reading

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