Category Archives: Social so-called life

Trying To Ban Voices Of Pain

CONTENT NOTE: Suicide, suicidal ideation, self-harm mentions and brief discussion. The news that the Tory Government wants to crack down on social media in all its forms and create a watchdog body to restrict “harmful” content is deeply worrying to … Continue reading

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Con Report: #Eroticon 2019

I’ve already written a couple of posts in the aftermath of Eroticon 2019 (a review of the Ruby Glow toy and my adaptation of it for male pleasure, and a new/old short story about discovering meaning in BDSM as an … Continue reading

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2019 Eroticon Virtual Meet And Greet post

NAME (and Twitter if you have one) My “nom de plume/guerre” is Valery North, @ValeryNorth (link in the righthand sidebar) Tell us 3 things you are most looking forward to at Eroticon 2019 1. Meeting people I’ve only known as … Continue reading

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I have the inevitable curse of a blogger – a dearth of inspiration for things to blog about. I could write about something political but a) that’s not the main focus of this blog, or isn’t supposed to be; b) … Continue reading

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Office design, and the theoretical person I am not like

In my last post, where I had a bit of a rant about badly-designed hand driers, I promised a bit more about the new office building where my current temp placement has me toiling away. This is so very obviously … Continue reading

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Life at 40: Middle-aged and Not Dead Yet

CONTENT NOTE: Suicidal ideation; mention of BDSM So last weekend was a big family party to celebrate my 40th birthday. My birthday was not actually this weekend, but close enough to make tacking on a party to a previously scheduled … Continue reading

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Work, teams, lunch and introversion

My job so far has been pretty good for an introverted probable-ASD having person: I basically sit at a computer and figure out which bits of information I need to gather to show that things are being done properly. If … Continue reading

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Deriving web dating from 36 Questions

In my post about the “36 Questions to Fall in Love” article last week, I wrote that, “I want to come back to this, and see if I can construct a way of using the concepts in dating. For instance, … Continue reading

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Bra Trek 2: The Voyage Home

(Yes, I know that was the title of 4, not 2, but I haven’t written 4 posts about the quest for a bra. Leave me alone!) So I promised last week that I would update on my progress as regards … Continue reading

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Humiliation: hotness and hard-limits

I’ve been thinking a lot over the past month or two about how I relate to humiliation from a Submissive perspective. I have always simply said that it’s a hard limit, but some of the ways I have been roleplaying … Continue reading

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