Tag Archives: BDSM

Novel Extract: “Karen gets her spanking”

The following is a passage from my novel Not To Choose, which is available to buy through Smashwords. It comes fairly late in the novel. Karen is Black, and in her late 30s. She made friends with Jo, the protagonist, … Continue reading

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Not To Choose is now available to buy!

So, 11 years after I started writing, I have finally finished a novel, designed my own cover, and published it via Smashwords. That is an epic achievement. There are so many things I have failed to complete, to see through … Continue reading

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No-Strings learning experience

Yesterday was the first time I have had no-strings-attached BDSM sex that was agreed from the outset would be nothing else: no romantic element, no “ownership”, no “relationship”. We get along as friends, but as far as the sex goes … Continue reading

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Reluctantly Queered

I mentioned in my review of Queer: A Graphic History that I separated out the “review” from the “philosophy” in order to write about the book rather than the subject matter. Part of that was that I felt a need … Continue reading

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Buying webcam sex: just like any other

So last weekend, I was feeling needy for some online sexytimes and (as often happens) suitable partners were not obliging in terms of either not being online or already busy with someone else. New suitable partners whose kinks and style … Continue reading

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It takes more than a laser to bring me down

Today, I got my face well and truly lasered. Yup, this was the beginning of my facial hair removal treatment. Unfortunately, my budget is not very stretchy and the nurse pointed out that the neck region isn’t covered. I may … Continue reading

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What else could be done with a BDSM checklist?

So a couple of weeks ago, @waitingirl13 and I were chatting on twitter about BDSM checklists. For those who don’t know (and if so, hello and welcome!) a BDSM checklist is a long (sometimes very very long) list of kinks, … Continue reading

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Your Flirty Joke Is My Reality

I forget whom I saw write about how some of the ways that nonBDSM people are free to talk about sexuality while hinting at kink, or at least “vanilla with sprinkles”, but it was probably Clarisse Thorn (though it may … Continue reading

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Sub power, Domly Vulnerability

Xiao Yingtai @ University of Abject Submission has been writing a fascinating series about Submissive Power, and her latest instalment is Sub Ethics: Owning Our Power. I’ve had in my “pending” file since February a piece by Xan West about … Continue reading

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And the next phase is: feedback

So, I’m finished even sooner than I thought. Today, I went and bought ink and paper, and for the first time printed off the whole story, turning the novel from an idea into something physical, tangible, and real-feeling. This was … Continue reading

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