Tag Archives: body language

Helping others to thank you

Crossing my social media radar this afternoon, is a cartoon with social interaction advice, “If you want to say thank you, don’t say sorry” It is strong self-support advice, in that it presents a series of situations in which “sorry” … Continue reading

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MAAB, disguised as a man

Waitinggirl @ Sometimes It’s Just A Cigar writes today about the different experiences of make-up that women have, and how there is no One True Narrative of what it means. The context is that apparently there’s been a recent flurry … Continue reading

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What else could be done with a BDSM checklist?

So a couple of weeks ago, @waitingirl13 and I were chatting on twitter about BDSM checklists. For those who don’t know (and if so, hello and welcome!) a BDSM checklist is a long (sometimes very very long) list of kinks, … Continue reading

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Brain science, touch and some questions on BDSM

I’m about 5 weeks behind in reading New Scientist articles, having just finished the 28 February edition. One article in particular in that edition struck me as interesting from the point of view of understanding BDSM in a neurological or … Continue reading

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Time for Elust 68

Photo courtesy of Molly’s Daily Kiss Welcome to Elust #68 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky … Continue reading

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Bra Trek 2: The Voyage Home

(Yes, I know that was the title of 4, not 2, but I haven’t written 4 posts about the quest for a bra. Leave me alone!) So I promised last week that I would update on my progress as regards … Continue reading

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Happy, stylish & vulnerable: my Dom icons

Xiao Yingtai @ University of Abject Submission writes about discovering her submissive icons, an exercise she credits to Midori: First, she says to list all the powerful women you admire – from fiction, film, history, myth, your family, everywhere, anywhere. … Continue reading

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Boobs and bras, an Odyssey

On Wednesday, I tweeted that I “felt my sexiest ever” and was “very excited”. I was going to save explaining why until the excitement phase had settled down into pure “yay”ness, but it turns out that will take longer than … Continue reading

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Gender, online roleplay and media

(This post follows on from the “bad chatroom messages” post at the weekend, in which I promised to writre about it being hard to find good online roleplay partners) I’ve written before about my adventures back in BDSM web chatroom … Continue reading

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Vote for orgasms! (in pictorial form)

I have been struggling to string words together in a presentable way all weekend to construct a proper blog post. Hasn’t worked yet. BUT! The big news to pass on is that Girl On The Net’s “Draw Your Orgasm” competition … Continue reading

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