Tag Archives: feelings

Questions and therapies: why CBT might not be for me

I have heard a lot of people either swear by the system of cognitive behaviour therapy (or CBT – not to be confused with cock’n’ball torture!) or criticise its misuse or poor delivery (the criticisms being more common recently). The … Continue reading

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How good does smiling feel?

There is a piece of self-help advice that is supposedly based on Science, about how to “beat the blues” and feel happier. The advice is to put a pen or pencil between your teeth. The theory goes, that this pulls … Continue reading

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Sub power, Domly Vulnerability

Xiao Yingtai @ University of Abject Submission has been writing a fascinating series about Submissive Power, and her latest instalment is Sub Ethics: Owning Our Power. I’ve had in my “pending” file since February a piece by Xan West about … Continue reading

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And the next phase is: feedback

So, I’m finished even sooner than I thought. Today, I went and bought ink and paper, and for the first time printed off the whole story, turning the novel from an idea into something physical, tangible, and real-feeling. This was … Continue reading

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General Election 2015: A Post Mortem

… My thoughts are a little bit incoherent today. High emotion can do that to me. As a long-term unemployed, kinky, genderfluid, sufferer from a mental health condition, I can’t help but take this a little bit personally: I want … Continue reading

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Nonconsensual CBT is a Hard Limit (Why forcing therapy on JSA is wrong)

So today I’m hearing via twitter that the Tories, and the Lib Dems, both have ideas about forcing people on Jobseekers Allowance (JSA) and other out-of-work benefits to submit to mental health treatment. The Tories are blatant about it: they … Continue reading

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Spanking, Brits, and what if we didn’t?

So a couple of weeks ago Jemima @ Sometimes It’s Just A Cigar wrote about the errors of trying to extrapolate from a specific to a general explanation or experience of kink. She used the example of how corporal punishment … Continue reading

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Why They Stay: A Microcosm

Content Note: Emotional abuse; victim thought processes/mindsets It is easy to find posts on feminist blogs, or women’s rights blogs (the two are not always synonymous, unfortunately) explaining why abuse victims stay in abusive relationships. If you have an ounce … Continue reading

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Disappointments and ageing and sextoys

I don’t really know that this has anything to do with ageing, but I do sort of feel like I’m getting older and my body doesn’t work the way it used to, and some of what this post is about … Continue reading

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SHORT STORY: “Not Paid To Like You”

The prompt for this story was the title. It conjured a couple of vignettes that I then stitched into this story. One or two points aren’t realistic, including the part with the main prompt! Specifically, in that a good sex … Continue reading

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