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It takes more than a laser to bring me down

Today, I got my face well and truly lasered. Yup, this was the beginning of my facial hair removal treatment. Unfortunately, my budget is not very stretchy and the nurse pointed out that the neck region isn’t covered. I may … Continue reading

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We now have Shared Parental Leave – so why didn’t I hear about it?

Girl on the Net has written up the case already, and perfectly, so there really is very little for me to add here except pointing everyone to her post. This is the sort of thing that I would be all … Continue reading

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Violence and BDSM assumptions

[CONTENT NOTE: abuse mindset, violent behaviour] So today on the Guardian’s Comment Is Free blog service, Emer O’Toole writes that a murder in a BDSM relationship has “made me rethink my sexual practices”. This is a sad and, if I’m … Continue reading

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Thought Experiment: Giving Rocqui A Gender

I like thought experiments. I think they can be useful for expressing or exploring ideas in science (famously, a thought experiment about bouncing balls on trains is used to explain the theory of relativity, for example), philosophy, and ethics. They … Continue reading

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Dr Rupert Read isn’t really sorry

I’m taking a break from planned posts to write on this, since Cambridge is pretty much local to me (I’m in South Cambs Parliamentary constituency, but Cambridge is close). [EDIT TO ADD: Rupert Read has added a long comment on … Continue reading

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“I see Pride, I see Power…” – Meet my Submissive Icons

(Title quote comes from the movie “Cool Runnings”, and might continue, in the context of this post, “…I see a badass Subbie who takes good care of somebody!”) After thinking about my Dom Icons last week, I felt my work … Continue reading

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Gender, online roleplay and media

(This post follows on from the “bad chatroom messages” post at the weekend, in which I promised to write about it being hard to find good online roleplay partners) I’ve written before about my adventures back in BDSM web chatroom … Continue reading

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Assumptions and privilege: tonight’s chatroom case studies

Content Note: entitled arseholes invading virtual personal space and denying non-binary gender status. And getting angry when I don’t like it. – – – I plan my Monday blogpost to be about a related topic (the difficulty of finding good … Continue reading

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On the value of the label “Feminist”

I’m male-bodied and, despite being genderfluid, typically cis-presenting for the sake of (possibly over-) caution about non-binary/feminine presenting (although the experience of just having long, feminine hair and receiving abusive street harassment factors into my calculation of the risks). That … Continue reading

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Hats, opera, and congruence

Somewhere over the period while I was on Mandatory Work Activity I lost my hat. I think I must have been too tired on the journey home, left it on the bus, and it didn’t get handed in to their … Continue reading

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