Monthly Archives: May 2013

What would your t-shirt say?

Posted on 31/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

I’ve done the gathering of data for SCW and have my questions all lined up and ready to go, but before I move on to the next stage, I want (in the light of the “My tools” series of posts) … Continue reading →

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My tools (Part 3): My ideas about me

Posted on 31/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

I’ve talked about what psychology tests reveal about the way I am, and got some feedback from people who know me best. That just leaves the things that came from my personal introspection. Some of it turned up points similar … Continue reading →

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My tools (Part 2): Other people’s thoughts

Posted on 31/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

Getting feedback from other people is not always an easy experience for the ego. But a serious attempt to figure out what I’ve got must include at least some external perspective, right? So here’s a few things that turned up … Continue reading →

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My tools (Part 1): psychology’s view

Posted on 31/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

Now that I know what I am looking for, the next point in my SCW programme is to figure out what tools I have available to do the work of getting it. Or, what attributes make up “me”? I am … Continue reading →

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Criteria for a successful interaction

Posted on 27/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

In my last SCW post, I talked about what I am looking for in a relationship. However, because of my social awkwardness, it seems sensible to think about what success looks like on a much smaller scale: that of the … Continue reading →

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Relationship desires: security (and some other stuff)

Posted on 24/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

Charlie Nox wrote in a recent email shot that: There are many aspects to creating an amazing, vibrant, sexy, fulfilling dating life. At a very fundamental level however, it comes down to 2 basic issues. Most people don’t know what … Continue reading →

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Kitten is missing

Posted on 20/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

I have more SCW work to share, but today’s post is returning to the theme of loss: Kitten is 22 years old and, at this age, has never missed a mealtime – and normally is very vociferous in making sure … Continue reading →

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My novel has a soundtrack

Posted on 15/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

As I get towards the dramatic crux of my novel, albeit still in first draft form, I find various thoughts bothering or distracting me, some of which I intend to discuss in future posts: the sense of reluctance to put … Continue reading →

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Serenity, Courage, Wisdom – the quest continues

Posted on 14/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

After the loss, the regeneration. After Winter, Spring. I decided that this year was going to be my Spring so it makes sense that I should take a look at how I am going to continue growing. In a private … Continue reading →

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Lost time

Posted on 12/05/2013 by ValeryNorth

As my last post may have indicated, the concept of loss has been on my mind recently – in part triggered by the loss of Clarisse Thorn’s blogging but also reflecting on other points of life. By coincidence, the very … Continue reading →

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