Monthly Archives: January 2015

SHORT STORY: Selling Bodies (a parable?)

The oft-repeated trope that sex work somehow involves women “selling their bodies” is equally often answered by sex workers saying, “Hey, look, I’ve still got mine!” I let my imagination do its thing, and the following is a small snippet … Continue reading

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Submissive power and the storms of life

Who really has the power? It’s an age-old debate within BDSM circles. Is it the Dom or the Sub? “Go not to the elves for counsel, for they shall say both no and yes.” The answer is so often given … Continue reading

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Deriving web dating from 36 Questions

In my post about the “36 Questions to Fall in Love” article last week, I wrote that, “I want to come back to this, and see if I can construct a way of using the concepts in dating. For instance, … Continue reading

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Dr Rupert Read isn’t really sorry

I’m taking a break from planned posts to write on this, since Cambridge is pretty much local to me (I’m in South Cambs Parliamentary constituency, but Cambridge is close). [EDIT TO ADD: Rupert Read has added a long comment on … Continue reading

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“I see Pride, I see Power…” – Meet my Submissive Icons

(Title quote comes from the movie “Cool Runnings”, and might continue, in the context of this post, “…I see a badass Subbie who takes good care of somebody!”) After thinking about my Dom Icons last week, I felt my work … Continue reading

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Bra Trek 2: The Voyage Home

(Yes, I know that was the title of 4, not 2, but I haven’t written 4 posts about the quest for a bra. Leave me alone!) So I promised last week that I would update on my progress as regards … Continue reading

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Lab-grown intimacy: does one size fit all?

The other day, I found an article from the New York Times about Arthur Aron’s experiments in intimacy, and how the writer (Mandy Len Catron) had tried it for herself. The idea is that, given the right conditions, it is … Continue reading

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Elust #66 – New year, new hotness!

Photo courtesy of CurvaceousDee Welcome to Elust #66 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll … Continue reading

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Happy, stylish & vulnerable: my Dom icons

Xiao Yingtai @ University of Abject Submission writes about discovering her submissive icons, an exercise she credits to Midori: First, she says to list all the powerful women you admire – from fiction, film, history, myth, your family, everywhere, anywhere. … Continue reading

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Boobs and bras, an Odyssey

On Wednesday, I tweeted that I “felt my sexiest ever” and was “very excited”. I was going to save explaining why until the excitement phase had settled down into pure “yay”ness, but it turns out that will take longer than … Continue reading

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